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The true essence of your balance point is that it is yours, not mine and not theirs. We must achieve balance through acceptance and collaboration, not competition.
The idea is that we are all unique individuals with our own values, vision, purpose, and goals and each one of us has a different way of achieving true balance. Each of us experiences true balance when we are operating from our own unique balance point. A balance point is a state of alignment that we experience when our actions and efforts are a true reflection of our values. It is from our balance point that we experience the highest level of clarity, commitment, strength, and confidence to pursue our ambitions, both personally and professionally. It is from this point that we are capable of making the greatest contributions in our world.
However, not everyone knows what they truly value, to know this requires a lot of personal reflection and consideration to fully understand what matters. Sometimes, when we are trying to understand our values and what motivates us, we have a heightened awareness of what others are doing and not doing. It is natural to compare ourselves to others for validation and understanding, but this comparison also lends itself to self-doubt and before you know it you are trying to convince the people in your life to change their priorities and be more like you. The ultimate goal is live your life as a reflection of your values and trust that you make the best decisions for you. In the same regard you must appreciate and respect that other people are making the best decisions for them in their lives. When we support each other on this quest to achieve and maintain our own balance points we are also encouraging and facilitating others to be the very best version of themselves. Imagine if everyone walked around feeling great levels of clarity and commitment to their passions.
How do you know when you are not in balance?
When your actions are incongruent with your values, you will feel out of balance. Sometimes you gradually fall out of balance and sometimes the experience is quickly obvious to you. There are a couple of ways to recognize when you are out of balance and living a life that is not congruent with who you are and what truly matters to you.
1.) You feel a little knot in your stomach all the time and you’ve become so accustom to this feeling that you think its normal.
2.) At the end of a busy day you sit down and feel as though you spent the whole day doing things and yet accomplished nothing.
3.) You are constantly feeling guilty about what you are doing and think you should be doing something else.
4.) Nothing inspires you. Your life is monotonous and boring, every day rolls into the next and few things hold meaning for you.
When you fall out of balance you may do things to try and feel better, things associated with feeling good and aimed at achieving balance, but it is not a one size fits all. Remember that certain things bring balance to us because they address a specific need and in order to successfully identify the solution you must first understand the need.